Yes, that shows up in so many ways from being a public school teacher, working in a non-profit, coaching people to build a business. It comes in a variety of shapes, sizes and forms.
There is no “one size fits all” when it comes to making a difference. Yet, there is ONE key ingredient that difference makers share.
That key ingredient is… bravery!
Last week I attended a business luncheon. At the luncheon I saw a colleague who I hadn’t seen in some time. I asked him what had been happening in his world. I was delighted when he gave me a real, straight-forward and authentic answer.
He’d been battling the struggle of,” is he enough.”
He went on to share the story of a good friend of his who took his own life. He told me that he knew his friend was in trouble. He could tell by his behaviors, that he’d constantly canceled on him and was not socializing. He said he knew he needed to do something. He needed to go over to his house and knock on the door and confront him on this.
But something stopped him.
It was the fear of not being enough. It was the fear of not knowing the answers, the how-to, or what the outcome would be. It was questioning his ability to make a difference, his worthiness, and then likely, the assumption that “someone else will handle it.”
No-one else handled it; his friend committed suicide.
Now, Robert, the man I know, has realized if he had believed he was enough he could have saved his friends life.
That’s why I know it takes BRAVERY to make a difference for other people. All we need is one opportunity that we didn’t take, to teach us we can and do make a difference for other people.
When we have the urge to help, we have to move on it and take action.
To make a difference, enlist your sense of bravery. Let go of the “I am not enough” thinking, even if just temporarily, and muster up every bit of courage you can find to do that one thing that you know should do, but that scares you.
To inspire that feeling, I’ll share a video that I love and that I’ve shared before, with Jana Stanfield’s song, If I Were Brave
My friend Robert also shared this great resource with me, please share it with any man that you know who may be needing some support right now: Mantherapy